Winners and Losers

Our natural tendency in a conflict is to plummet into a win/lose mode. We believe that in order to resolve the conflict to our satisfaction we must win and the other party must lose. The misfit simply wants to solve the problem. Whether the conflict begins with a critisism, accurate or inaccurate, and we defend ourselves and/or respond with a stronger reciprocal critisism, or whether in a business transaction we want to best the other party, we want to win at any cost. The misfit understands that a true or false accusation can be absorbed or rejected without further ado to no one's harm and in a business transaction both parties must feel like winners for the sake of productive future business dealings. Turning the other cheek is not the same as being a doormat.